Welcome to Mirrors and Windows Workshop

Introduction

People who enroll in this workshop gain valuable self-knowledge by writing their most impactful true stories, discussing them in the workshop, sharing insights that have the potential to enhance the life of the writer.

Mirrors and Windows Workshop is designed to give participants the practical knowledge of how to integrate into their everyday lives what they learn about themselves and others through readings and discussions of their stories.

The workshop is limited in size to six participants, who write a new true story each week that they read aloud in the six sessions.

Purpose

Life stories are keys to self-development. This workshop is called Mirrors and Windows because our most life-shaping true stories, when fully understood, act as both a mirror and a window for participating writers.

Their stories are a mirror that reflects back to the writer a self-portrait composed of his or her character in action. Each story mirrors who they are, how they react to challenging situations, and the influence of their character, values and core beliefs on what happens in their stories.

Personal stories are also windows through which a story's writer can glimpse their future. Their stories give them an opportunity to understand who they have been and who they will continue to be if they don't make a sustained effort to evolve into the person they want to be.

Mirrors and Windows Workshop is designed to be transformational.

How the Transformation Occurs

Through supportive, honest discussions, workshop participants deepen their insights into why their stories are important to them and what they can learn about themselves from each of their narratives.

As the number of stories written by participants increases during the workshop, the positive and negative qualities revealed in their stories become apparent. They discover recurring patterns and themes, and determine which of their traits contribute to harmonious outcomes and which contribute to regrettable ones.

Mirrors and Windows Workshop teaches how to use self-knowledge gained from their stories to create an everyday practice of expressing their best qualities in all interactions, quickening the pace of their evolution as human beings.

The teachings of the workshop are challenging but possible to achieve. Enduring character changes occur from continuously being the person you want to become. As Leonard Cohen once wrote, “Act the way you would like to be and soon you will be the way you act.”

Years ago, when Scott was director of Mountain View School on the adolescent psychiatric unit of St. Vincent Hospital in Santa Fe, he would ask patients, who were also students, to write or tell him the story of what led them to be where they were, on a locked psychiatric unit. Their true stories were among their best teachers. Scott believes that is true for all of us.

About the Workshop Sessions

When people enroll in a Mirrors and Windows Workshop, they are given a story-writing assignment that they are to complete and bring to the workshop's first session. They are asked to “Write a story about a conflict you had with someone that got out of hand and led to hurtful consequences.” As you write your story, reveal your mood, attitude, thoughts, dialogue, emotions, decisions made, actions taken, and consequences.

At least two days before each of the six sessions, participants email their story to Scott as an attached document, nine or ten pages.

Beginning with the first workshop session, and for each of the five subsequent sessions, participants will bring to the workshop a digital or a hard copy of the story they wrote that week, which they will read to the workshop group.

Each workshop participant has about ten minutes to read their story. After they read, listeners and the story's writer comment about the story on a form Scott gives them titled, “In Search of the Writer’s Character.” This form focuses primarily on the narrator's character traits, values, core beliefs, decision-making and actions or inactions. Adjectives and phrases are jotted down by all participants as they take notes when someone reads a story.

Following workshop discussion, the completed forms are passed to the story's writer for future reflection.

During the first fifteen to twenty minutes of each session, Scott discusses topics that are relevant to the workshop’s goals. Topics include: (first session), the importance of writing and learning about ourselves from our true stories; character traits, values, core beliefs; free will; discovering your life’s purpose; (second session), life-shaping influences; patterns and themes; the law of attraction; ego-triggered thoughts, emotions and actions; (third session), living holistically, mind, body and spirit; living mindfully; equality consciousness; (fourth session), non-violent communications; critical thinking; wise decision-making; (fifth session), improving relationships; the value of an apology and forgiveness; gratitude; awe and wonder; (sixth session), emotional intelligence; being an activist for your highest good; how your life has changed, living as the person you want to become.

The final assignment for workshop participants is to write a response to two questions:

• “What have your stories taught you about yourself?”; and,
• “What is your plan for using what you have learned from your stories to create future story outcomes that are in alignment with the person you want to become?”

Additional Information

First names only are used during the workshop to protect the privacy of participants.

If requested, after completing all six workshop sessions, participants will receive a certificate of completion.

Each workshop participant owns the copyright to all of the stories that he or she writes for a Mirrors and Windows Workshop.

Participants agree to not talk with anyone outside of the workshop about the stories read in a Mirrors and Windows Workshop, without permission from the story's writer.

The number of participants in a Mirrors and Windows Workshop will range from three to six.

To enroll in a Mirrors and Windows Workshop, the only requirements are for a prospective participant to be highly motivated, and committed to the everyday practice of being the person that he or she wants to become.

Sponsors will cover the $875 tuition for each workshop participant. They believe in you and so does Scott. Strengthen an individual in our community and you strengthen our community.

Mirrors and Windows Workshop sessions will often be offered in the elegant Castle Room, upstairs from the lobby of the El Rey Court in Santa Fe, but will also be held at other locations, including colleges.

To enroll in a Mirrors and Windows Workshop

Before beginning your workshop application process for a full scholarship, please answer two important questions. Can you commit to participating in all six of the consecutive, weekly, two-hour workshop sessions? And are you highly motivated to learn from your true stories and do the hard work to presently be the person you want to become?

If you answer yes to both questions, please continue. Write a brief paragraph about why you are highly motivated to take a Mirrors and Windows Workshop. Privacy of information is respected.

Click on “Calendar” and choose the date of the Mirrors and Windows Workshop that you would like to enroll in with a full scholarship, your $875 tuition paid for by a supportive sponsor.

Complete the requested information on this application form.

Name

Email address

Phone number

Date of workshop requested

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Enroll

Scott will send an email to you to let you know if your application has been accepted. If it has, he will send an email when he has a sponsor for you.

Success!

To Sponsor Scholarships for Workshop Participants

If you or your business would like to support the important work that each Mirrors and Windows Workshop will accomplish, please sponsor scholarships for one, three, or six workshop participants by contributing $875, $2,500, or $5,000. Smaller amounts are welcomed as well. Please send checks made out to Mirrors and Windows Workshop and address your envelope to:

All checks will be deposited in the Mirrors and Windows Workshop account at Del Norte Credit Union in Santa Fe.

After a sponsored workshop has ended, the sponsor will be sent an email letting him or her know whether their scholarship participant or participants successfully completed all six workshop sessions. If any sessions were missed, a participant has an opportunity to make up the session in the next workshop, if space is available. If the missed session is not made up then, a check for the money that a sponsor gave, which was not used, will be returned to the sponsor.

Anyone, or any business that gives one or more scholarships to workshop participants will be thanked with a 3”x 4” rectangle space on the Mirrors and Windows Workshop website’s Sponsors page, with their name or the name of their business and logo on it.

To schedule a meeting with Scott to discuss sponsoring scholarships for workshop participants, email: scott.seldin@fastmail.com. All workshop correspondence should use this email address.

Thank you!

Scott Seldin